Perfectionism is sometimes justified as having high standards. No one brags about low standards. You go too far when you become consumed with “getting everything right” and lose your sense of priorities. Think about your most challenging current project, and what it would take for you to be happy with your work on it. Are […]
The best leaders make coaching and developing others a priority. Think back to a coach or past boss who positively impacted you and why. You likely recalled fond memories of how you felt in the presence of that person and ways that you grew. There are three main purposes of coaching: Reinforce performance Improve performance […]
In learning about others in business, it’s not uncommon to come across some outstanding athletes. That being said, I didn’t think I was hearing Sue correctly when she told me she runs in 100 mile races – “What did you say?” I blurted automatically. “How long did it take you?” I pursued. “Twenty eight hours,” […]
I recently listened to an interview between Krissa Tippett, the host of On Being, and Pico Iyer, journalist and author, about the “urgency of slowing down.” Pico has been an advocate for the importance of finding stillness and he models it in his life. He lives with little technology in a remote village in Japan […]
Thanksgiving has long been among my favorite holidays. It’s devoted to being grateful for all we have and considerably less commercial than other holidays. Despite the euphoria that might set in as we visualize how wonderful our upcoming Thanksgiving might be, many leave the holiday feast feeling fat, angry and disillusioned after “quality time” with […]
When members bring challenging issues to our confidential Key Women’s Leadership Forums, they express a desire to be supported with tips and strategies on how to be more resilient through those times when life gets really prickly. During these conversations, as facilitator, I have noticed that some people have a very narrow definition of resiliency. […]
One of the keys to building confidence is making mistakes and even failing. You learn from taking risks especially if some don’t work out. Challenging experiences help to bolster your competence and seed confidence. Experiencing failure, especially when you are young, can forge a life-long habit of resilience. People, who learn from failure instead of […]
I was invited to speak at Raymond James’ Women in Capital Markets Conference in January of this year. I was excited to hear that Claire Shipman was the keynote speaker. She with Katty Kay co-authored the Confidence Code. In her talk, Shipman recounted interviews she and Kay conducted with some of the most powerful women […]
Some are able to say “no” to a request or opportunity and feel good about it. “This just isn’t the right fit for me” or “I don’t have the bandwidth right now – I hope you understand” are ways they opt out confidently. Others avoid saying “no” altogether because they don’t want to jeopardize a […]
January signifies fresh starts. It’s a time to set goals and dream big. An essential component of planning is letting go – of too many priorities, of things that no longer work, of relationships that no longer serve you. December is the time to clear out and bring an end to the extraneous, the no […]
